Home Schooling

Accidental Homeschooler | Ep 179


A lot of us have become Accidental Homeschoolers recently. Brad has said he'd never home school but is trying not to stress and find balance during the day.

Vincent Pugliese, from the Total Life Freedom podcast, joins the show to discuss homeschooling. He says homeschooling isn't what you might think. It's not making your own clothes and wearing funny hats. It's about freedom.

He noticed that when his kids started school they spent less time together as a family and school brought more stress into the house, not less. He discovered homeschooling solved a lot of their problems and gave them much more freedom.

He encourages parents to let the child direct the subjects by what they are interested in. Focus on creating a love of learning.

Vincent put together a resource for the ChooseFI community. This includes:

  • a free copy of his audiobook
  • a PDF homeschooling guide
  • a live Q&A with Vincent and his wife Elizabeth

Get that resource here.

Vincent was on the podcast a few years ago, check out his full episode here.

Check out ChooseFI's Accidental Homeschooler resources here.

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4 thoughts on “Accidental Homeschooler | Ep 179”

  1. As a certified public school educator, who has experience private tutoring many students and homeschooling my three children, this episode was frustrating to listen to. One of children’s greatest needs is for calm adults to create a familiar schedule that meets children’s needs. Regulation of emotions, sleep patterns, movement and energy, etc are foundational at this time.

    Let’s start by bridging the gap between our children’s usual school and current at-home learning environment by partnering *with* their classroom teacher(s). Those teachers are reachable via email and phone, or even virtual video calls, depending on the district. Let the teacher and the child lead the way in recreating a familiar and comfortable learning environment at home. So ask both, “How do you usually do this? What works well? Show me…” Ask the teacher for ways to continue classmate relationships and feedback on work. This e-learning time is not necessarily the right time to throw everything about my child’s education up in the air for a shake up to see how it lands. If anchor points in my children’s lives have been unmoored, then they need familiar, regular schedules that keep them connected to their teacher(s), friends, and yes, parents. Surprisingly, parents may realize that if familiar schedules are in place, the parent may be needed less to be a “teacher” than anticipated. My three children ages 5-10 are at the end of day 10 of e-learning. They only really need me to listen at Family Mealtime to what they’ve been working on during video calls with their teacher, or what their individualized reading assignment covered.

    So, as a parent wading through distance learning: ask teachers and children good questions, encourage older teens to contact teachers directly, and help them set up familiar routines for successful learning. No staying up past school day bedtimes; no couch surfing if they would usually be at swim team. But don’t be surprised if your child only needs you to listen.

    Calculus, sentence diagramming, and French grammar aren’t required of YOU. Compassionate listening, reconnecting to teachers, and healthy, regular routines so everyone can work from home and be decent humans to one another are the simple keys.

    Lastly, please, stop using the term ‘Accidental homeschooling’. I agree with your guest that everything truly is learning, if only we could shift our perspectives. Whenever our kids are at home, they DO learn from us by our emotional availability and our actions. Chores and family rhythms are also ways that children learn at home. However, this public health crisis is an e-learning or distance learning time for public and private school students, and it would be helpful if you could correctly distinguish that from families that have been full-time homeschooling. Please reframe away from “Accidental homeschooling” and toward “distance education”, or a similar term since teachers are still writing the curriculum, lesson plans, learning activities, etc. and many are teaching via shared slides, audio files, and video calls.

  2. I agree with Jen and also found this episode extremely frustrating. Being a public school teacher, I had to stop listening and walk away from this episode. While homeschooling can be beneficial to students, and the resources are wonderful for parents who want to keep helping their child’s education, this episode took on a negative tone about our schools at a time when teachers are working in overdrive to convert their classrooms into virtual ones and begin the adventure of distance learning.

    It’s not perfect. My wife (also a teacher) and I have transformed our dining room into two different classrooms. Primary reading on the one side, middle school math on the other. In our efforts to do an immense of learning and re-configuring how we teach, we started working one day at 6:00 am and didn’t have breakfast until 1:45 pm. We were too locked in, trying our best to set up a program that would work for our students in this new environment. We know there are challenges that teachers and schools faced before this and our system isn’t perfect when we are in our physical classrooms. We know that the challenges will keep coming as we work to take our classrooms online. But every single teacher that we know is incredibly dedicated and working their best to make to continue the learning for our students.

    With that being said, putting in my headphones to listen to ChooseFI while taking my dog for a walk was supposed to be a way to relax and step away for a bit. Instead, I listened to an episode that was tone deaf to our current reality. It was frustrating, depressing, and ultimately the wrong message at the wrong time. There really is zero need to harp on teachers and schools and tell us why homeschooling is so much better and how you feel the system fails at what it is designed to do.

    Wrong tone. Wrong message. Wrong timing. However, I do highly encourage anyone who is new to the ChooseFI community, and in education, please don’t let this episode ruin your ChooseFI experience. Brad and Johnathan do a wonderful job of communicating information and bringing relevant information to this community. This is simply one episode that completely missed the mark.

  3. This was not a frustrating episode for me. It is amazing at how sensitive some teachers get when discussing the idea of homeschooling. I don’t think homeschooling is right for everyone, but this was certainly a timely episode with an alternative point of view that should be heard.

  4. Oof, this episode was cringe-worthy for me. I went in being open-minded about homeschooling (we have a one year old), and the guest was pretty unimpressive and laissez-faire about the value of broad, foundational knowledge. “Everything is school” is such a half-baked refrain, it’s kind of embarrassing. I might recommend he read “Range: Why Generalists Triumph in a Specialized World” by David Epstein. If you don’t have basic cultural literacy, how can you connect with those who are different from you? Following your passions is fine advice, but it doesn’t teach the importance of communicating your ideas with another person who may be quite different from you.

    I feel like his kids are going to have some fairly sizable gaps in their understanding of the world…

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