Andréa Motenko grew up with food and housing insecurity. She’s on the show discussing the psychology of poverty and how it allows us to be resilient and push forward through adversity.
Andréa has committed her life to social studies and taking FI information to people experiencing poverty.
Andréa is uniquely positioned to bring information to people in poverty because she grew up in a similar situation. She is coming from a place that is rooted in resilience, based on childhood exposure to a harsh world.
She was raised in urban Boston by a single mother. At age seven, she saw her first violent murder. Throughout her childhood, she struggled with food insecurity and housing insecurity. However, she was also a student in the elite private school system, which led to an Ivy League education. At this point, she has reached Financial Independence.
After coming such a long way, she has a unique perspective on the relationship between poverty and FI.
The Psychology Of Poverty
The psychology of poverty is something that Andréa has spent a lot of time working on.
So, struggle is something that transcends how we socially look at people, right; everybody has some sense of what struggle is. And that struggle–it allows for us to connect across experience. The psychology of poverty is what’s ingrained in us, having experienced struggle. It’s how we look at survival and the skills and pieces of that process that then are integrated into our behaviors.
It is not surprising that the struggles of poverty in childhood have an effect on spending and saving patterns. Children in poverty understand what it means to do without. They learn that money is rooted in the experience of what it means to be rich. And their concept of resiliency and self-preservation is stronger than most.
Their reactions to these experiences might manifest in a larger emergency fund, cash under the mattress, more insecurity around shared finances, and overall hopelessness associated with money.
However, the overall psychology is something positive that needs to be harnessed. The pieces needed for financial success are already a part of the mental toughness. The grind, struggle, and resiliency that is rooted in behavior can allow someone to bounce back faster. It just requires redirecting your energy to your benefit and moving forward.
Prior to her father leaving, he was emotionally, physically, and financially abusive. Due to that, she was more responsible than most children. In fact, her first job was at 8 years old sweeping the floors at the vet clinic.
Although she always worked, that money was used to pay for household bills. She had to get into the habit of saving her earnings because she never knew when she would need to pitch in. Early on, she developed an understanding of the relationship between work and living and the need to find a balance.
However, she never allowed this work to be an excuse for school. Instead, she excelled in the classroom. She sat in private school classrooms with high-status children due to programs that opened doors for her. She attended local universities for night and summer courses. Overall, she sought to absorb as much knowledge as possible.
Is Education The Way Out?
Although education was a big piece of her journey, she does not see it as the only way out of poverty. Her mom encouraged her to see college as the opportunity to get out of poverty. So, her mom pushed her towards busy intersections that made learning possible.
There are so many programs for kids to learn from. Finances, STEM, and history are just a few of the many fields that reach out to children with programs. Based in Boston, she was in a location that allowed her to take advantage of many of these opportunities. As she learned from others, it exposed her to people that thought differently.
Andréa says education is not always the way out but it is an option. Planning and tenacity were more critical to her success.
Understanding Her Options
As she grew up, she was exposed to a wide range of situations. On one end of the spectrum, she saw drug addiction, prostitution, alcohol struggles, and homelessness. She saw friends living on government assistance and witness her mom skip meals so that she could eat.
Her mother never hid the money struggles that faced the family. She had open conversations about the house going into foreclosure. She walked through house refinancing processes with her mom and witnessed the stress of not being able to pay the bills.
All of these experiences led to understanding more of the struggle and realize the tenacity it would take to move forward.
Navigating And Asking
Showing up to hustle proved far more important than simply cracking a book to study. She studied hard, gathered information and degrees to lean into the education track.
It’s all accessible to you. It’s just about navigating that pathway. Asking the questions. Going up to something that you didn’t think was possible and saying “This is what I want! How do I get here?” And not assuming that it’s impossible to touch. But, I do think, that, what’s really at the root of it, is the hustle. And falling into your passion, identifying what your personal and individual mission is, and aligning everything that you do with that mission.
She made it clear that your mindset is critically important. You cannot believe that something is impossible. The root of her success is hustle. She aligned everything in pursuit of a goal and hustled to success. For her, the goal was to figure out ways to change the systems in place and apply what she knew with a seat at the table.
The hustle started well before college. In high school, she showed up at Harvard to ask professors questions. Many campuses have programs to reach out but not many take advantage of that opportunity.
Also, it doesn’t have to be an Ivy League school. You may decide to shadow a tradesman such as an electrician to learn more about that field. If you have an interest, you can always ask to shadow or be an assistant.
She also started to consult with nonprofits in high school. Although she only earned minimum wage, she was able to learn from the directors of nonprofits. It taught her how business worked and how she could help others in the future. The opportunity came from simply volunteering at walks for causes she was interested in.
Sometimes, she was sitting next to the director of the organization just listening and learning, other times she asked if she could help out on Saturdays; such experiences opened the door for more opportunities.
Now, it seems like an informational interview. But in high school, it was a way to satisfy her curiosity which led to opportunities. Those connections allowed her to go to college and completely transform her overall trajectory.
How To Scale The Message
Reframing the mindset of poverty can change lives. Andréa turned her hustle and grit into a success story. Now that she has achieved what so many think of as impossible, she is working to bring that message to others.
She wants to spread the idea that although the world doesn’t give you anything it doesn’t take your spirit. You can use your unbroken spirit to change the complex intergenerational hopelessness one step at a time. Learning how to transform their grind into a rich life is something achievable.
Mentorship is everything. It’s stepping out of that circle of people that’s directly around you and thinks just like you to introducing people that think a little bit differently.
Stepping outside of your inner circle and learning from others is essential. Consider taking people out to coffee, attending their talks, or reading books they recommend. Ask them what their biggest lessons are. Remember, just because they live a different life now doesn’t mean that they don’t have a common struggle in their past. We have all been through something, find a way to connect.
Struggle is a concept, it’s an experience that allows people to connect across the boxes that society puts them in. And that’s exactly what I’m talking about. It’s breaking down these boundaries, these boxes that we check; whether we’re of color, not of color, male, female, cis-gender, not native to the United States, whatever. And saying “We’ve all been through something and how can we connect on that level of something?”
For Andréa, asking questions along the way led to relationships with governors, former presidents, and other people that have changed their world. They also had the ability to change her world. Simply asking questions and a desire to learn more has shaken her life in a good way and she wants to pay that forward.
Most are willing to mentor others. It never hurts to reach out. Send a friendly email telling them your story and asking to learn more about their story. You will get more responses than you think.
These relationships can really change your life.
Pairing With The FI Community
Before finding FI, Andréa was in her first year of graduate school and diving into the consulting space. She recently had a stroke and became disabled at 28. As she found her health again, she really began to identify what FI was for her. She realized that the things she was doing already aligned with FI. The community of empowerment around personal finance was inspiring.
It helped her understand that her hustle is something that others are striving towards. Originally it felt like she had
to remain humble about her achievements, but with the FI community, she found that she wanted
to remain humble. Overall, it feels like she has found her tribe.
Is FI Accessible And Possible To People With Lower Incomes? And Maybe Grew Up In Poverty?
The short answer is YES.
After living through the trauma of poverty, hustle and a desire to save are already there. FI is not always the choice between a Honda and a BMW. It can be much bigger than that and is rooted in behavior. FI allows people with a mindset formed in poverty to transcend struggle into something that you already want to do. As more people continue from poverty to FI, it is important to share those stories. Looking at the bigger picture can lead to a totally different outlook.
It is important to diversify the story. Different perspectives in the FI community can help to fill in the gaps. The need to show each step along the journey is critical, not just those who start ahead of the game.
Struggle and adversity are things that everyone faces in life. As members of the FI community, it is important to share stories that diversify the experience. No matter where someone is today, the path is not straight. It is critical to share the steps along the way to help shift the mindset of others.
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How To Connect
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An Inflection Point:
Getting sick, and deciding to get better. It took some time, but she decided to not let this illness define her life. She bought a one-way ticket to Africa for three months of travel and healing. “I was either going to live, or I wasn’t.”
Favorite Life Hack:
Meditation. If you are looking for ways to get started with Mindfulness Stress Reduction Techniques, then community groups and clinics are a great place to start.
Biggest Financial Mistake:
Failing to assert her value. That led to avoiding negotiating for higher salaries or understanding what she was worth.
Listen: Negotiate Your Salary With Tori Dunlap
The Advice You Would Give Your Younger Self:
Harness your hustle. Start now!
Bonus! What purchase have you made over the past 12 months that has brought the most value to your life?
She has been investing in herself through training and skills. It has allowed her to expand the concept of personal worth and grow.
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